July 8, 2006

Jess had a great birthday. We were going to stay low key but our friends decided Jess and the family needed a little celebration. His best friend Curtie and his brother Carson came over with their parents. Paul made his awesome barbecued ribs and corn. His sister made him a pudding cake...he was able to even have a few bites. And little Jahara helped him blow out the candles and open his presents. Grandma & Grandpa were part of the gang too. He got cards from his family in Ohio and calls from his brother, his Aunt Jenn and his friend Dustin. All in all I think he really enjoyed his 19th birthday. The next day we took Jess to the 4th of July parade. When the firetrucks went by we reminisced when Jess and his friend Billy rode on them in the parade when they were just little guys. How time flys!
He had an alert and good week in therapies. Amanda gets such good responses when working with his eyes and when she asks him to respond. She started helping him draw on his big clip board again. He loved to draw so we hope one of these days we will see a wonderful painting again.
We had an appointment with a neurologist on Friday. She comes over from Boise a couple of times a week. We talked to her about ruling out the possiblity of Jess having seizures by hooking him up to a pocket EEG machine for 48 hours. It is very common for someone with a brain injury to have seizures but Amanda and I are sure he is not one of them. The times when Jess stares off into space and I say "Jess is talking to the angels again" could possibly be times when he is having a slight seizure. He will be hooked up next Wednesday and we will monitor different movements and eye gazes for the 48 hours. Seizures can inhibit him from progressing. Jess opened his hands, moved his foot, blinked two blinks for yes and tried to shrug his shoulder for her. After letting her know all we were doing for Jess I asked her if there was anything we were missing or if she had any suggestions for us. She smiled and said after reading through all the information I supplied her with she thinks she was the one who learned a lot from us.
Amanda stayed with Jess for a few hours today which allowed Chris and I to go for a wonderful hike. We both have realized how far we have drifted apart since Jess' accident and decided we needed to do a little work on spending some quality time together before we become another awful statistic. We have been receiving some interesting messages lately from total strangers so we decided we needed to take heed. We were warned in the beginning that not many relationships survive when they are faced with such a challenging tragedy in their lives. It's easy to take out all the fear and hurt out on each other. But, we realize that Jess needs us both and we need each other so letting go and spending some time together will only benefit us all. It was an incredibly beautiful day and the wild flowers were exquisite. Of course a hike with Chris is never just a "walk in the park"...it is always an adventure into the wild. We stopped on the way home and pulled out the side by side bike in the back of his truck and went for a little ride on the bike path. We rode to the park where the Dahli Lama put in the prayer wheel last year. It is a very spiritual place. We spent a few moments in silent and said a few prayers there after saying a few more on top of the mountain when we were hiking. We thanked God for the constant healing of Jess' brain. We thanked Him for a lot of things. We are trying to be ok with where we are right now. We just need to love each other and know that everything is in it's right place.